Free yourself from the past with the power of forgiveness

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As a true warrior you have already learned how to forgive yourself. You have understood the power of gratitude to build stronger connections that will make you stronger. Today you will learn about the whole power of forgiveness and how it can make you feel free.

You may be afraid of offering something as fragile as your heart just like the flower in the picture, but forgiveness will help you remain strong. Photo by McKay Savage.

Your past weights too much

I want you to focus for a minute on all the memories that you have. Buried in those memories, deep inside, there may be one that is about betrayal, or perhaps it is about someone doing something that harmed you. There may be more memories like this one. Or perhaps only one or two that are really painful to remember.

Those memories hold a great deal of power over you. Some of them could turn into an outright fear to the same conditions that made you feel bad. These kind of powerful memories and buried emotions are one of the biggest reasons why you may be afraid of going for the success that you really want to achieve.

One half of the answer was to forgive yourself from everything that have happened until now. But the other one has a lot to do with the people who have done something wrong. It’s time to let go of your past and forgive them.

Forgiving is not a weakness

Some believe (particularly the guys) that forgiving someone make them weak. That is really far from the truth, after all you need to have a huge deal or courage to accept the fact that someone did wrong and you are willing to give her a clean slate. That’s not easy to do, since it goes way beyond just saying: “I forgive you.”

Forgiveness is all about truly feeling that the other person doesn’t owe you anything. It’s not just a couple of words that we grant towards someone who ask an apology. truly forgiving someone means that even when they did something wrong to you, you are ready to let the past go and start over. You realize that carrying that event for a long time will only start to drag you down and make you feel worst than the actual event.

Open you heart, mind and soul

Forgiveness is not only about rationalizing that it will be worst over time. It’s about truly opening yourself again to be hurt. That sounds really scary, but it’s the truth. That is why truly forgiving another person means being strong enough to open up:

• Open your mind: There are no reasons to keep a grudge. All the energy that is needed to keep such a bad feeling could be better used in something more constructive. Beside grudges turn into hate or remorse, feelings that are totally opposed to what an Enso Warrior tries to accomplish.
• Open your heart: We are all afraid to get hurt. But someone brave as yourself understand that opening up your heart is the only way to find happiness and to allow beautiful experiences to happen. Yes, there are some bumps in the road and your feelings may get hurt, but if you can truly open your heart and forgive others, you will see that there are better experiences ahead for you.
• Open your soul: I still have not talked of the spiritual side of an Enso Warrior, but rest assured that there is a connection to a higher power. I’m not talking about religion, but you may already feel that there is something bigger than you. Forgiveness let’s you build a stronger connection with that sense of purpose. It allows you to draw strength from something bigger than you, me or anyone else.

Forgiveness in it’s true form

Imagine this. When you are wronged for whatever reason that could happen, a wound is formed. This wound is painful, but it can turn into 2 different things.

• A scar: This forms when you don’t truly forgive, and you just say it “tongue in cheek.” This scar is a constant reminder of the problem. Each time you remember that scar you will feel as if it was still an open wound, this is all but a nice feeling.
• The complete healing of the wound: If you truly open yourself and forgive the other person, there is no scar, there is no longer pain. Yes, it was painful, but not anymore. You allow the wound to be fully healed and as a result you allow the relationship to heal too.

A true act of forgiveness is simple, it just involves 2 persons that open up to allow a healing power to enter their lives. And as I said above, it helps close the wound and heal it completely. If you allow the powerful healing of forgiveness pour over a wronged relationship, you will turn a horrible experience into a powerful bond. Of course, this can only happen if the two parts are willing to heal the relationship. but forgiving someone can make the bond stronger instead of weaker.

It takes time

You may feel that it’s not yet time to forgive, and I understand you. Sometimes the problem is so big that it takes more time to allow the light of forgiveness to fill you. Don’t worry, take all the time you need. build some confidence in yourself and don’t forget to forgive yourself first, it’s part of the healing process.

Take into account that the other person may not be ready to ask for forgiveness or may not even realize that she did wrong.

A simple exercise to help you

This works better if you are alone. Just close your eyes and imagine any person that did something that made you feel bad. Imagine that she is in front of you and she is asking for an apology. Now feel yourself opening up, allow your true feelings to speak. With a calm relaxed voice say why did you feel that her actions were harmful. Just after that allow yourself to forgive her, say why you are forgiving her. Perhaps it’s because you value your relationship or because everyone deserves another chance.

Give yourself the chance to heal your relationships and allow yourself to develop your forgiveness over time. I promise each time you forgive someone, you will feel lighter.

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